There are times we find ourselves questioning our life; that’s a no-brainer, right? Well, whenever we start to question our morals, our beliefs, who we are as people – we have a chance to either devalue or value those important pieces of who we are as a whole.
Have you ever heard of the term “mirror work?” I, myself, hadn’t heard of mirror work until I read the book, Life Loves You by Louise Hay & Robert Holden – which I highly recommend and can be purchased on Amazon.com by clicking the book below.
It’s certainly worth checking out. Louise Hay is an incredible author that I find myself admiring more and more due to her optimistic and Spiritually-striving attitude. She not only explains what mirror work is, how to practice it, and the benefits – Robert Holden also demonstrates his astonishment towards her positive attitude and overall demeanor all throughout their book.
What is mirror work? Put simply, and in the best way I want to personally sum it up: Mirror work is literally just as it sounds. You look at yourself in the mirror and accept that Self, accept you in your entirety. You learn how to love yourself, affirm yourself, accept yourself (I believe to be one of the most important parts, hence me mentioning it more than once 🙂 ). Once you can accept yourself as-is, with all those mistakes, all those triumphs, all those painful moments, and all those heart-held memories – the mirror won’t be so “scary” anymore.
Next time you look in the mirror, notice what you think, feel, say, do. Is what you’re saying or thinking something you would say to a very dear friend of yours? To someone you respect, love, care-for? If not, why would you tear yourself down by belittling yourself?
Remember: What we say to ourselves, we should be able to proudly say in-front of, or to, those people we love.
In order to start mirror work, Louise recommends (and I agree) to first start with (yes, again)! Acceptance. Acceptance for ALL you are. This acceptance forces you, in a gentle-forcing manner, to look deeply within. Quite literally, you are looking at yourself in the mirror, monitoring the way that makes you feel, and demonstrating a calm compassion and understanding of it all. From there, from being there in that moment, you are better able to learn how to love, respect, and honor yourself. Which, in turn, allows you the opportunity to develop yourself further and better love, respect, and honor others.
This is why positive affirmations are so helpful. Thoughts are things! But, you must truly feel and believe in those thoughts for them to manifest. With the way our brains work, the more “neurons that fire together, wire together.” This common quote rings very true, especially in tapping into your subconscious mind to break the barrier(s) that may be holding you back from living the life you truly deserve. The main barrier? Convincing your own subconscious mind of your Truth with positive thoughts, outlook, and any needed changes to be made.
It doesn’t have to happen overnight and, trust me, as a person who has dealt with depression for years, I can tell you it takes especially extra conscious effort to turn those seemingly disruptive thoughts into a more, natural and positive stream of positive ones. Meaning, the more you repeat, the more you work on yourself – the more you tap into your subconscious roadblocks and maps to either detour just slightly or take a new route altogether. Again, with full acceptance of where you already, currently are right now!
The power of thought is so strong that if you gave yourself the challenge of being in the “now,” right now and always – you can determine what feelings you do and do not accept about that and adjust accordingly.
I offer you this challenge (yes, I read this in the book and completely recommend it):
Every day, look at yourself in the mirror and say “I love you.”
It will almost always feel weird at first, and may even feel like you’re lying to yourself; but, you can decide how you wish to feel. Of course, with depression and any mental illness, this can often times come across as “easier said than done.” However, thinking optimistically, getting adequate exercise, creating goals, and striving to love YOU for YOU gives you a few natural tools to lift your spirits. This, being alongside any needed psychological help (I’m not here to diagnose)! will, indeed, help you better handle your emotions, reactions, and the way you navigate your Self.
For the next 30 days:
- Look in the mirror
- Say “I love You” (out loud or in-thought)
- Monitor your feelings (write them down if you can)!
You don’t have to do this, but let me tell you – it helps and is worth it! On top of that, saying “I love you” is only part of mirror work. I recommend reading the book to get a very detailed, in-depth view of exactly how much this will benefit your life.
‘Til then, if you want to feel happier about where you currently are and know that you are, indeed, worthy – try the simple exercise above. After the 30 days, notice how much kinder you are to yourself, how much more accepting you are of your current moment, and just how much potential is, and always has been, available to you.
Life gets better when you’re easier on yourself, able to take full accountability/responsibility for past actions and love yourself for every single one of them. Don’t fear the mirror, for it can actually be one of the best objects to work with in developing personally, spiritually, and mentally.
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